This week we received a question:
How Would Your Travels Have Changed If You Were Single – Here is her question:
“How would your travel plans have changed if you didn’t have each other? I am often wondering how couples who do long-term RTW travel find each other and if the plans sparked FROM finding each other or if the two were traveling separately and combined plans.” – Annie
Hi Annie, thanks for your question, I thought answering to your question would be easy, but the more I think the harder it gets!
How Would Your Travels Have Changed If You Were Single? How It Hasn’t Changed…
My plan to make a long-term trip somewhere was there long before I met Nathan. I told everyone that nobody would get in my way, that I would travel the world no matter what.
When I met Nathan he was on his last year to graduate a masters degree in classical music, but soon after he decided to quit. He wanted something more out of life, and so did I. The more we hung out, the more similar our dreams became.
I guess we shaped each other in a way. I wanted to travel, he wanted to do something different after having spent so many years studying, and travel around the world again seemed like a great option for him.
I believe that a big reason why me and Nathan got together was because we wanted the same things in life. If you’re looking for the same things in life, you will naturally want to go to the same places to get them.
Depending on your personality, you want to see, do and experience different things. A couple traveling together looking for two opposite things won’t stick together very long. If one person wants to do all the crazy adventurous things and party hard, and the other is more interested in a slow, comfortable trip, it simply will not work.
Another reason I think might have had some impact was that I attracted what I wanted: I was dreaming of surfing in the South Pacific, and here comes Nathan – a surfer from New Zealand… 😉
How It HAS Changed…
Despite the fact that I might have traveled alone to the same countries which we traveled to together, my travel plans have changed so radically with Nathan that the trips in themselves would have looked so different in a way that I can only imagine.
First of all there are so many places in these countries I know I wouldn’t have traveled to, not because I didn’t want to but because I didn’t know how to!
With Nathan I get that extra bit of courage, I dare to try more things and be even more adventurous. With Nathan I dare taking more chances than I probably would by myself.
I think the planning route would have looked slightly different in that way that I would have stayed closer to the ‘beaten track’, but when he was there next to me I didn’t need that comfort and safety.
There is no place I wouldn’t want to go to, but some I’d like to see more than others. With Nathan though, I do have to compromise. Some of the places we’ve gone to wouldn’t have been my first choice, but that’s part of the beauty. With him I travel to places I otherwise wouldn’t ever go to.
Now I’d like to forward the question to you – our readers. How would your trips have changed if you didn’t have your travel buddy/partner, or more so (for solo travelers), if you DID have one…?
Also if you have any travel questions you would like us to answer in the next few weeks – send us an email here: aswetravel(at)gmail.com