Most couples claim that a destination choice is a joint decision, but is that really true? – Can two people really agree on wanting to go to a place equally as much, or does one person have the final say when it comes to Couple Travel? We all want everything to be equal, especially in a relationship, but is that really possible? We know that people want different things and that you can’t always want to do the same things and go to the same places, so who decides where you go?
I came across an interesting study where SkyScanner showed a list of where women and men would most like to travel. One destination that was very high up on the scale for men was Spain, while it wasn’t even in the top 10 countries for women. Yet, Spain is the most visited country by couple travelers. To me, it seems like the men have more influence on the vacation than they think they do. I’m curious to know why that is the case, why do couples travel to the place which doesn’t interest the women at all, but is in the top list for men?
Is it because men usually earn more, and therefore can decide where to spend the money? Or is it for some other reason? Are they more persuasive than women, or don’t we mind as much where we go? When me and Nathan decide where we go – the decision is made based on three factors:
We don’t always have a lot of cash, so our next few destinations will likely be somewhere cheap, and close to our current location – Thailand, Laos, Cambodia etc. We try to spend a few months in the same region, before flying off to another part of the world.
When I really want to go somewhere, we go there. When Nathan really wants to go somewhere, we go there too. The person who has the most passion and drive tends to really influence the other person to want to go there as well. It really is true what they say: What makes the other person happy makes you happy too. We have never found ourselves in a situation where what we wanted was so different – that we couldn’t agree on where to go, perhaps since we both want to go everywhere anyway, so it doesn’t really matter where we start. :p
Every Second Time
If we have just traveled to a place where that I really wanted to go, I naturally let Nathan decide the next destination, and so on.
The Power Of Saying Yes While Traveling
There is one word which is more powerful than any other word, a word that makes you go either right or left – I’m talking about the “YES” word. ‘Yes’ is by far the most powerful word in the world. Saying yes to something can completely transform your life. It’s crazy to think that such a small word, one of only three letters, can have such an effect and impact. Think about everything in your life that you’ve said yes to before knowing the consequences, and then imagine what would have happened if you hadn’t said yes – maybe a no? Things would have been pretty different, wouldn’t they..? Saying No so often leads to a dead end – it is safe, and it is certain. At least when you say yes things will change, you trust and you give life a chance. Saying no to things is the safest thing you can do. It is driven by certainty, by fear and often people say no to things they actually would have liked to do, but they’re too scared of the consequences. While studying acting and film making a few years ago, I learned that what makes a story is the action of “yes”. If people said no to everything, the story would become boring pretty fast, since nothing would happen.