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Does Change on the Outside REALLY Equal Change on the Inside?

Sofia February 2, 2010 Mental & Internal, Travel Advice 21 Comments

A few weeks ago I was writing a blog, and I was about to write “I will have a white christmas no matter what”, but then I realized I was going back to SWEDEN for Christmas and thought it would be stupid saying such a thing as I knew THAT wouldn’t happen :p

But it turns out it actually might!

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It always does – don’t you think?

You’ve been gone for a while, and then you come back and you realize that nothing has really changed.

Even on the ride home I passed old friends from primary school…!

I haven’t watched the news (or any sort of tv) for the past 6 weeks, and when I had settled in my hotelroom I watched CNN (the only english speaking channel on tv) for like 7 hours, and I realized pretty soon that nothing of any real matter had changed in the world either.

It’s a strange feeling, coming back from a trip.

You’ve seen and experienced so many things, met new people, and many times you’re not the same person coming back as you were when you left.

And when you come back you feel like nothing has changed. Everything in the room is where you put them, nothing has changed in the city, the shops are still the same. Your friends are still there working at the same jobs.

Nothing has changed since you left, or have they……?

Change From a Non-Travelling Perspective

Take a look at the same things from a different perspective.

I mean, no city really changes much ever, but what about the people?

Just because my old primary-school friends still live at the same place it doesn’t mean they haven’t changed, or that their life hasn’t changed.

My sister for example, she still lives with her boyfriend in the same apartment, but they have JUST (2 days ago) had a baby and now need to take care of her! – isn’t that a bigger change to someones life than having been to (insert large number # here) of countries?

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Take someone who has been on the road for years, and when he finally comes home he feels like nothing has changed. His friends still live at the same place they used to, they hang out with the same people, but they now have a family.

How has the travellers life changed more than someone who didn’t travel, but experienced other major changes instead?

Can a traveler remain the same even if the surroundings keep changing?

Does a change from the outside (surrounding, people, environment) mean a change on the inside?

I love the story Eckhart Tolle (spiritual teacher, author of “Power of Now“) tells when his whole life had changed, and then he meets up with an old friend who takes a first look at him and says “You haven’t changed at all!”.

Maybe someone who has been away only sees what he wants to see…

Leave a comment below and I would love to hear what do you think about this?

/ Sofia

  • Chrissy

    Interesting blog. I also was stuck in that mindset for a few years, that changing my situation would change my state of mind, but now I have settled down in one place and realised that life is where and what you make it. Hope you get a white xmas in Sweden :)
    Chrissy

    • http://socialsupermen.com/nathansofia Sofia von Porat

      Exactely, often people (I too used to do it) try to escape from their problems by moving somewhere else, travelling or just changing their surroundings, only to find that they brought their problems with them..!

      Thanks Chrissy, it actually looks like i will!!
      Hope you have a great christmas and take care!

  • Chrissy

    Interesting blog. I also was stuck in that mindset for a few years, that changing my situation would change my state of mind, but now I have settled down in one place and realised that life is where and what you make it. Hope you get a white xmas in Sweden :)
    Chrissy

    • http://socialsupermen.com/nathansofia Sofia von Porat

      Exactely, often people (I too used to do it) try to escape from their problems by moving somewhere else, travelling or just changing their surroundings, only to find that they brought their problems with them..!

      Thanks Chrissy, it actually looks like i will!!
      Hope you have a great christmas and take care!

  • Nathan

    Great blog Sofia-Doff! I agree with you – that by simply changing your outside situation (travel, new country etc.) doesn’t always mean you will change on the inside – we have met many a backpacker who has spent 10 years always moving – who still seem to be seeking for that internal happiness from external sources – while the real source of internal happiness comes from within you and when you finally LET YOURSELF be happy with the current situation – no matter what it is. :)

    Send my best wishing to the new baby :) I am so excited to see pictures!

    / Nathan

    • http://socialsupermen.com/nathansofia Sofia von Porat

      Thanks! yes, I think we all have our times when we’re looking for happiness from external things, and travelling comes great at hand; your mind is bombarded with new things that distracts you from your problems, and when they’re not so new anymore, your problems and thoughts that you’ve managed to ignore come back, and you’re all the sudden “sick of the place” and move on to the next, to continue to distract your thoughts.

      I will, she’s an angel, you can just sit there for hours looking at her.

  • Nathan

    Great blog Sofia-Doff! I agree with you – that by simply changing your outside situation (travel, new country etc.) doesn’t always mean you will change on the inside – we have met many a backpacker who has spent 10 years always moving – who still seem to be seeking for that internal happiness from external sources – while the real source of internal happiness comes from within you and when you finally LET YOURSELF be happy with the current situation – no matter what it is. :)

    Send my best wishing to the new baby :) I am so excited to see pictures!

    / Nathan

    • http://socialsupermen.com/nathansofia Sofia von Porat

      Thanks! yes, I think we all have our times when we’re looking for happiness from external things, and travelling comes great at hand; your mind is bombarded with new things that distracts you from your problems, and when they’re not so new anymore, your problems and thoughts that you’ve managed to ignore come back, and you’re all the sudden “sick of the place” and move on to the next, to continue to distract your thoughts.

      I will, she’s an angel, you can just sit there for hours looking at her.

  • http://www.thezonebook.com/ Jon

    Here's a bit of babble from me… See what you think :)

    "The only thing that is constant is change".

    I think that change can occur on many levels – large scale, small scale, external, internal. One can be 'changed' due to the experiences had whilst travelling – but that is only if one is consciouslly or subconsciouslly open to change. In this respect, hopefully the 'change' is a process of improvement – but this is not always the case (then again, you have to define what improvement is in this context – maybe a completely different topic for discussion? :D )

    Of course, a person can live their entire lifetime within a very small area, never travelling. But are they stagnant, or 'unchanging'? Probably not. They are constantly undergoig change – albeit perhaps minor to the eyes of someone who has experienced umpteen hundred countries. I think the type of change that a 'non-traveller' goes through is simply different to the type of change experienced by a world traveller. Is one better than the other? Not at all. Judgement here isn't anyones place. I think for some, the security of one set environment is a most important need. For others, new inspiration and experiences are paramount. What is perhaps the challenge is to avoid dependance of both of these conditions.

    So, I think things are always changing: whether on an obvious level or not. Also, the way in which we perceive the world is constantly changing, based upon our own development. Therefore in effect, as we are always changing, our perception is always changing, and therefore, so is the world around us.

    Just my 2 cents on a Saturday afternoon in Sweden :)

    • http://www.thezonebook.com/ Jon

      Forgot to add that I think reoccuring themes can in effect be perceived as if nothing changes. Especially when watching the news for example :)

  • http://www.thezonebook.com Jon

    Here's a bit of babble from me… See what you think :)

    "The only thing that is constant is change".

    I think that change can occur on many levels – large scale, small scale, external, internal. One can be 'changed' due to the experiences had whilst travelling – but that is only if one is consciouslly or subconsciouslly open to change. In this respect, hopefully the 'change' is a process of improvement – but this is not always the case (then again, you have to define what improvement is in this context – maybe a completely different topic for discussion? :D )

    Of course, a person can live their entire lifetime within a very small area, never travelling. But are they stagnant, or 'unchanging'? Probably not. They are constantly undergoig change – albeit perhaps minor to the eyes of someone who has experienced umpteen hundred countries. I think the type of change that a 'non-traveller' goes through is simply different to the type of change experienced by a world traveller. Is one better than the other? Not at all. Judgement here isn't anyones place. I think for some, the security of one set environment is a most important need. For others, new inspiration and experiences are paramount. What is perhaps the challenge is to avoid dependance of both of these conditions.

    So, I think things are always changing: whether on an obvious level or not. Also, the way in which we perceive the world is constantly changing, based upon our own development. Therefore in effect, as we are always changing, our perception is always changing, and therefore, so is the world around us.

    Just my 2 cents on a Saturday afternoon in Sweden :)

    • http://www.thezonebook.com Jon

      Forgot to add that I think reoccuring themes can in effect be perceived as if nothing changes. Especially when watching the news for example :)

  • henrik

    Haleluja!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Sofia_von_Porat Sofia_von_Porat

      Haha YEEEAAHH!!! HALLELUJAA!! keep up that spirit! ;)

  • henrik

    Haleluja!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Sofia_von_Porat Sofia_von_Porat

      Haha YEEEAAHH!!! HALLELUJAA!! keep up that spirit! ;)

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  • niclas

    Humans renew our cells in such speed that we after 40 days are not the same person anymore, yet we think we are. Science has proven that over 70 percent of all matter is invincible for us, yet we think we can see change. It’s also a fact that our world is built on atoms and fractals, that in the end all we are is wavelengths, reflected in a universe without any colour, and that that the most stubborn conservative all his life saves up the radical energy to in the end die. So life is change and even death is – that’s what’s so exiting about being around.

  • niclas

    Humans renew our cells in such speed that we after 40 days are not the same person anymore, yet we think we are. Science has proven that over 70 percent of all matter is invincible for us, yet we think we can see change. It’s also a fact that our world is built on atoms and fractals, that in the end all we are is wavelengths, reflected in a universe without any colour, and that that the most stubborn conservative all his life saves up the radical energy to in the end die. So life is change and even death is – that’s what’s so exiting about being around.

  • Henrik

    Praise the Lord!
    Haleluja!

  • Henrik

    Praise the Lord!
    Haleluja!